Has there been an Affair? Overwhelmed by too many demands? Not working as a Team?
At the Marriage and Family Clinic, you’ll learn how to change problem behaviors through communication and problem-solving; how to negotiate changes and develop a better emotional understanding of each other.
We’ll help you identify and change the "Demand - Withdraw" cycle that gets many couples get into as they try to balance chores, careers, kids, friends and in-laws. Research shows that balancing the two concepts of acceptance and change is a keystone to making changes that last.
But then life got more complex. Your schedules and routines changed. Careers got started (or not). Kids come along. Work, friends, family got harder to juggle. You discovered that when you start living with somebody, the differences in managing life and coping with stress start showing up more often.
You both started learning things about yourself and each other that had been overlooked before. Differences started getting in the way; maybe your tolerance level for messiness might have been different, maybe one of you wanted to mix work and play and the other liked to get things done first and then relax. Maybe one of you likes to just go with the flow and the other is always worried about what's next.
Now you're overwhelmed. You don't feel appreciated. Kids come along, careers take off (or not), and schedules get out of sync. As life got more complicated, you may have been the one doing more and more. Work and taking care of others or just having a hard time saying no to people may have left you exhausted
Now you've shut down. You're walking on eggshells. Your arguments may have escalated and now ugly and painful things are said and done - resentment builds up. You may have tried to make changes but they don't stick and gridlock sets in. Disagreements would escalate or be ignored and the cycle just continued.
.We'll help you with assertiveness and negotiation skills to develop clear blueprints to manage life and protect the time and energy you used to have for each other.
Now you've become roommates. You're not in love anymore. Somewhere along the line you became roommates or just parenting partners. Maybe you got so caught up in the day-to-day grind that you stopped taking care of yourself and your connections with each other.
You might be leading separate lives now-going into separate parts of the house, one or both of you more connected to your phone or TV. Those dreams you had might seem gone forever and any happy moments are long behind.
Or, one of you has gone outside your marriage. Infidelity can be a deathblow to self-esteem and a relationship. But it can also be used as a wake-up call to confront the issues that led to the affair, repair the damage done and restore your friendship into a healthier, more intimate relationship than before.
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Get Back on track
-Improve Your Responses
-Make Better Decisions…
Manage Anger... Anxiety... Despair
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Take one more look before making a permanent decision.
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Improve Communication and Relationship Skills
Get Back Those Loving Feelings
Recover from Infidelity
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Over 30 years of studies that have identified precisely what skills you need in order to manage your conflicts and build successful relationships.
One of the most important features of successful relationships is the quality of the friendship between partners, or how well they know one another. Take the love quiz below and find out. START QUIZ
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You may be wondering how you went from being so intensely in love and committed to each other, to wondering at times if you were even meant to be together. Or, something’s happened and you’re wondering how or if it can be fixed.
We’ll help you learn how to deal with those areas in which you have different styles and how to work with what may seem like “deal breakers” and unsolvable problems. You’ll learn how to get out of the trap of trying coercion and demanding change, to using a different approach to communicating and problem solving.
Research shows that conflicts and differences can be good for your relationship and can you and your spouse get closer; if common pitfalls can be avoided. You’ll learn what those common traps are and how to navigate and negotiate them. Most of us already are too hard on ourselves and feel incompetent at stressful times. We don’t need a partner that has become negative or unavailable.
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