Helping You and Your Relationships

Falling in love was great.  You idealized each other, everything seemed easy and effortless. Differences seemed unimportant (and sometimes exciting). You loved, and you felt loved in return. The "Love Circuits" in your brain were on overdrive. You started making little concessions, becoming an "Us''. Most of us didn't get a formal education on relationships, and most people don’t know where to start when things start changing.

But then life got more complex. Your schedules and routines changed. Careers got started (or not). Kids come along. Work, friends, family got harder to juggle. You discovered that when you start living with somebody, the differences in managing life and coping with stress start showing up more often.

Positive moments got harder to create. Comments took on a new new tone. Frustrations grew and apologies didn't seem to work anymore. Maybe you made some changes with your life and your partner didn't. Differences started getting in the way; maybe your tolerance level for messiness might have been different, maybe one of you wanted to mix work and play and the other liked to get things done first and then relax. Maybe one of you likes to just go with the flow and the other is always worried about what's next.

Now you're overwhelmed. You don't feel appreciated. Kids come along, careers take off (or not), and schedules get out of sync. As life got more complicated, you may have been the one doing more and more. Work and taking care of others or just having a hard time saying no to people may have left you exhausted

Now you've shut down. You're walking on eggshells. Your arguments may have escalated and now ugly and painful things are said and done - resentment builds up. You may have tried to make changes but they don't stick and gridlock sets in. Disagreements would escalate or be ignored and the cycle just continued.

Now you've become roommates. You're not in love anymore. Somewhere along the line you became roommates or just parenting partners. Maybe you got so caught up in the day-to-day grind that you stopped taking care of yourself and your connections with each other.

You might be leading separate lives now- going into separate parts of the house, one or both of you more connected to your phone or TV. Those dreams you had might seem gone forever and any happy moments are long behind.

You might be stuck arguing and miss the passion, romance and intimacy.

Or, maybe an Affair has happened. Maybe the "Divorce" word is being used. Infidelity can be a deathblow to self-esteem and a relationship. But it can also be used as a wake-up call. We often hear things like:

"I wanted us to get help a long time ago but but my partner refused, so now it's too late!" OR

"They're the one who needs therapy, not me. They need help, because I'm not the problem!"

We know that adult lives and relationships are complex. Personal struggles and relationship issues sometimes overlap. You may have tried fixing things yourself; reading books, turning to friends and family for support and advice - but now you need someone who has the training and experience with what you're dealing with.

Every day, we help Individuals and couples address issues and bring back passion and romance; reach agreements on how to handle the kids, money, in-laws, work (just to name a few). You'll get the tools you need and the chance to practice them, so that in the future, you can resolve little things before they get big.

• Couples need to be able to talk about their gripes and worries (particularly those about the relationship).

• Couples need to be able to talk about their life visions and dreams (particularly those about the relationship)
and about how their visions and life dreams seem to be fading or getting lost.

• Couples need to have conversations about what is going well and what they appreciate about each other.

Our Therapists
Greg Gross
LESLIE RICHARDSON

It can be overwhelming to look for the right therapist. After all, most counselors treat a diversity of problems, including depression, anxiety, substance use, and trauma-related stress.

In addition to standard counseling techniques; Our Therapists are specifically trained in relationship therapy and have a lot of daily practice in working this way. We vary by experience and style, but we all share a passion and commitment to helping you make changes.

Licensed Independent Mental Health Professionals

Clinical members of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT).

The most comprehensive marital assessment available today

At the Marriage and Family Clinic, our therapists are relationship specialists who specialize in working with couples and individuals struggling with:

General Negativity and Silence
Frequent conflict and arguments
Little Appreciation - Laughter - Fondness
Little or no communication
Loss of Passion - Romance - Sex

Overall Sense of Dread or Sadness
Anxiety - Concentration - Focusing
Not being able to forgive or forget the past
Parenting rules and routines
Balancing Work and Home Responsibility

Selfishness
Disputes and Issues with In-Laws
Hyper focusing on Electronic Devices
Religion and Spirituality
Infidelity - Affairs - Betrayals

Our major goal is to help you make changes that will
improve your life and your relationships.

I've been helping individuals and couples for over 35 years. I started out working with adolescents that had been removed from their home and reuniting them and their families before making the decision to specialize in working with couples who are willing to dedicate themselves to learning and growing.
Please feel free to email or call me at the Clinic if you would like to visit before making an appointment.

Request an Appointment with Greg

Clinical member of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT).

Licensed Independent Marriage and Family Therapist

Licensed Mental Health Professional

Every Individual and couple have their own set of problems that they grapple with throughout life, from personal issues to relational issues. Growing personally and as a couple requires being open to learning new ways of doing things, making room for each other and being able to push yourself (not your partner) out of your comfort zone.

I've seen individuals and couples turn very difficult and painful lives around and restore health and friendship to their lives. This is not easy however, as we live in a society that promotes shallow and chaotic lifestyles that undermine personal health and the stable environment required for children to develop and grow.

When we enter into a marriage and then again when we bring in children to the marriage; we have the obligation to push ourselves to grow (as individuals and together) in ways that will enable us to honor those commitments. Children have a stake in every marriage.

Not every life can be turned around, or every marriage made whole. This is unfortunate for everyone, but some divorces are necessary to prevent further deterioration and damage. Love, Respect and Fairness are intertwined with Personal Well Being and Health.

Greg@marriageandfamilyclinic.com

Leslie Richardson M.S. Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

https://MarriageCounseling.as.me/Leslie

Request an Appointment with Leslie

Clinical member of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT).

Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

Licensed Mental Health Professional

Licensed Drug and Alcohol Counselor

I believe that each person’s life is made up of the pieces that create the unique puzzle that is you.

Over time, one or more of those pieces may become lost. I am here to help you put the pieces together again and lead you to a balanced, healthy lifestyle.

I believe that every negative event is an opportunity for growth! My goal is to provide you with the tools and support to help you attain your goals and get your life back on track.

I have specialized training and extensive experience working with:
• Relationships Problems
• Eating disorders
• Substance abuse