If you've been feeling stuck or frustrated because your spouse will not work with you, we may be able to help you get past the usual sticking points of pointing fingers and going around in circles.​ 

We'll help you improve your responses by teaching you skills that people who are successfully in being treated well do on a regular basis.  You'll learn what "Emotional Hijacking" is and how regulating your responses are the first step to being able to discuss loaded topics.  


You may be struggling with:

  • A critical close minded partner
  • A partner who won't talk
  • Conflicts that just don't go away
  • Overwhelmed with managing the demands of work and the demands of life.
  • Just discovered an affair or trying to get past the aftermath of an affair.
  • Power and control struggles
  • Sex, lack of desire  or intimacy,
​Or, you Can't let go of things and tend to hold on to grudges​
 You may have tried everything you can think of  and could use some help "thinking outside the box".  You might be wondering, "Is it you or your partner?"  

Life gets more complicated  and no one is immune to stress.  You may already be trying to deal with the fallout of stress; close friendships get set aside, enjoyment goes downhill, a good nights sleep is just a memory.

Left unchecked, your vulnerability to anxiety and depression increases with each change in your life.  You may have already tried or are using so type of medication to control the anxiety and depression symptoms.

Our training will help you If you are open to learning  and can learn to tolerate discomfort for the sake of growth.  We can help you avoid the cycles of over-reacting to triggers form others. By increasing your "Emotional Balance"  your responses to conflict will be more grounded (not so defensive, judgmental, critical or shutdown).

Develop skills to manage your response to conflicts 

Research shows that over 60% of issues in a marriage don't go away.  Both of you have your ideas of how to manage life and so communication and negotiation skills are needed.

You learn the skills to manage your reactions when upset, how to validate your partners point while explaining yours.
 
​Men tend to get upset more easily during arguments like these and had a harder time calming themselves down (become Flooded and Stonewall, and to replay stress-inducing thoughts).  

Demanding change and withdrawing from the discussion doesn't work for anyone in the long run; and indicates there are strong physiological reactions that must be handled.

Increase positive moments between each other

Improving the balance of life management (chores, parenting, free time) and start reconnecting with each other about what is going on in each other’s worlds and what is going on in each other’s inner lives.

You’ll learn how to recognize when your partner is trying to connect with you and how to respond in positive ways that lead to new patterns between you. You’ll learn to soothe each other and yourselves.

​ You’ll learn how to switch from the “fight or Flight” mode  and lighten up with light humor, curiosity or tenderness. You’ll learn how to recognize the 5 core personality differences that often leads to a critical or judgmental mindset.  Stop living like roommates and become good friends again. 
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